Monday, December 5, 2011

{Just keep moving on}

People will try to bully you.
People will tell you that you can’t succeed.
People will fail to encourage you and/or commend you.
People will try to hurt you to soothe their old wounds.
People will fail you. But you will fail people too.
And people will blame you for their something that failed long before you were in the picture.
Don’t allow their misery to become your own. 

We all know you can’t lead a horse to water. And you certainly can’t lead that horse forward out of yesterday if it’s entrenched knee-deep in mud. Shake hands with yourself in five years, not the horse. Don’t try to get people to conceptualize it if they can’t. Just keep moving on. No one said you needed to rescue the horse.  He’s knee-deep for his own reason. Be accountable to you and the people you love.

A bad situation doesn't make you a failure. You just have to choose to succeed today. Tomorrow. You can come from a bad childhood, a bad relationship, a bad past and can still pick yourself up and choose to win in life. Bad choices and - yesterday especially - does not make you a failure unless you remain in yesterday. The horse stuck in the mud chooses to remain there while everyone else is moving on. 

In time, things that trouble you today will seem less concerning tomorrow. So allow time to do what it does - moving on making past days past. Time marches on with or without you. The key is to keep marching with it.
For the formidable yesterday – and we all have formidable yesterdays… Anticipate each new 24 hours as a vehicle to march past the previous 24 if needed. Or.. previous  26,280. Whatever it is… it was yesterday. The next 24 are yours to better. Choice is the one thing that can never, ever be taken away from you. Choose a better tomorrow by planning for it today.

Has this world been so kind to you that you should leave with regret? There are better things ahead than any we leave behind. C. S. Lewis

Or as Oprah said it:

You are responsible for your life. You can't keep blaming somebody else for your dysfunction. Life is really about moving on. Oprah Winfrey

Know your regrets from yesterday but don’t bring them into today and especially not tomorrow. 

Leave those hours, those people and places there. Don’t remain there with them. Believe in who you are today. And who you will be tomorrow. The Purpose Driven Life is one of my very favorite books and talks so heavily about this very thing. What is a life without purpose? When the brevity of life is at hand, and each day is a gift - life requires purpose and direction. Without it you are just wasting your days stuck in the mud. Tell your family that you love them and anticipate the moments with them. Outside of that love and priority, all else fades away.

Keep moving on. There are better things ahead.